...who doesn't need to be perfect, who doesn't judge others for not being perfect and who teaches her child the necessity of not being perfect and of being different among people. And who takes a lot of (perfection) stress off her child's shoulder.
...who accepts the love that her child feels for her, but who also equally accepts all the other feelings that may come from him, even anger.
...who admits that she has feelings of unconditional love for her child, but also acknowledges that there will be moments in everyday life when she will be experience more negative and overwhelming feelings. She knows that these cannot erase or diminish the loving part.