Parent Estrangement: How To Cope After Going No-Contact
Breaking up with parents. It may sound weird to some, but yes, indeed, there is a breakup from our parents, and it is called parental estrangement. It happens when the adult child decides to cut off from their parents, or from one of the parents. Of course, this usually occurs after long years of efforts for reconciliation and of trying to bridge the differences. When all these efforts are not successful, parental estrangement seems to be the only solution for these adult children. In this article, we will discuss what parental estrangement is, what causes it, and how to cope if you have estranged yourself from your parent(s).
Let's clarify "Self-Care"
In my previous blog post, I talked about boundaries, which for me is core to the act of self-care. Without boundaries, self-care is a non-starter. This post is a continuation, and talks about self-care, and its importance in motherhood. It is interesting to hear different perceptions of what self-care entails, and what mothers may say about self-care. It typically can sound something like this...
Setting Boundaries with Children - A Coach Explains
Boundaries: many parents struggle with this. You are not alone and you are completely normal! Learning how to set healthy boundaries with your children is not only beneficial for you, it teaches invaluable lessons to your child. This way, they will learn how to appropriately set boundaries and foster healthy, respectful and loving relationships with others.
The "Good Enough" mother is the one...
...who doesn't need to be perfect, who doesn't judge others for not being perfect and who teaches her child the beauty not being perfect and of being different among people. And therefore she takes a lot of (perfectionism) stress off her child's shoulder.
...who accepts the love that her child feels for her, but who also equally accepts all the other feelings that may come from the child, even anger or rejection.
...who admits that she has feelings of unconditional love for her child, but also acknowledges that there will be moments in everyday life when she will be experiencing more negative and overwhelming feelings. She is well aware that these uncomfortable, conflicting feelings cannot erase or even diminish her loving side.
HOME IS WHERE YOUR HEART IS.