“Commitment”. “Dedication”. “Loyalty”. These are the words that we have either related with deep and meaningful relationships, or in other cases with a feeling of heavy responsibility. However, these plain words can even make us feel trapped, hopeless or even ready to flee.
To be with someone else in an intimate relationship means that we entitle them with our love, friendship, partnership, etc, and most of the times this is irrelevant of their talents, values, morals. No skill can lead to an emotional decision. Therefore, we can feel the same passion for a hero or for a coward. Being loved is not something we earned (like a job through an interview), but something that was given to us generously, like an unspoken favor. Thus, love means to live in the eternal coexistence of terror and miracle. (Pascal Bruckner)