EMOTIONAL PERFECTIONISM

Learn to deal with uncomfortable emotions in your relationship. Free yourself from the constant pressure to be happy!

What is emotional perfectionism?

Have you ever felt this uncomfortable cringe when there is a negative emotion (from small irritation to sadness or anger) in you or in your partner, that made you feel that if you give more space to that, more negativity will follow?

“You are reading too much into that - come on, just be happy and move on” or “I don’t want you to be sad”, we might say. 

​ Don’t get me wrong here, there’s nothing wrong with being happy. There’s also nothing wrong with feeling sad or angry. They are both perfectly healthy elements in our life and relationships. However, some of us have a strong need to always feel happy, and see others be happy: we call that “emotional perfectionism”.

Emotional perfectionism comes with a toll:

Emotional perfectionism is dividing all our emotions into one of two boxes: the “good emotions” and the “bad emotions”.
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We think this practice protects us and our relationship, but it actually takes a toll on everyone involved: you avoid discussing relationship struggles with your partner, your partner might feel emotionally invalidated when feeling down, or pressured to be happy in order to make you happy.

This is why instead of benefiting your relationship, this pattern is a sure way towards creating even more tension and disconnection.

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Does this sound familiar to you...?

• you label each emotion as either “good” or “bad”
• you avoid any uncomfortable emotions
• when you feel a bad emotion, you suppress it immediately
• you expect yourself and others to be happy or in a good mood all the time
• You see experiencing bad emotions as a failure
• You see bad emotions only leading to something negative or damaging to your life and relationships
• you avoid confronting issues with your partner because you don’t want to cause negative emotions
• when your partner is having an uncomfortable emotion, you push them to “get over it”

If you said "yes", then this course is what you are looking for!​

Close your eyes and imagine how it would feel to...

• be able to learn from uncomfortable emotions instead of avoiding and fearing them
• letting yourself to be happy instead of pressuring yourself into it
• see emotions without labelling them as “good” or “bad”
• be okay with yourself when you feel unhappy
• see emotions as helpful instead of dangerous for you and your relationship
• discuss issues with your partner without worrying about negative emotions

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Emotional perfectionism not only puts unrealistic, inhuman standards to you and everyone around you,

​but it also makes it difficult to form and maintain satisfying, authentic, and long-lasting relationships. 

​I want to help you understand the meaning and purpose behind negative emotions. I want to encourage you to embrace all emotional experience as a part of your life and relationships.

Step by step, I want to help you develop the tools you need to defeat your emotional perfectionism and have a healthy emotional life.

In this course you will develop a deeper understanding of:

✔ what emotional perfectionism is
✔ how emotional perfectionism is developed
✔ how to spot telltale signs of emotional perfectionism
✔ the steps you need to take in order to live an emotionally healthy life
✔ how to handle uncomfortable emotions in your relationship
✔ live an emotionally rich life without the guilt

My Story

​Through my work as a psychologist who focuses on supporting people with anxiety, depression, burnout, panic attacks & stress, I was flabbergasted to see how many of the people I work with have a perfectionist mindset: more than 90%!

Making this discovery led me to ask the question, ‘How can we begin to overcome this unhealthy habit?’

One of the first things that people usually ask me when I talk about perfectionism is: 

“And what’s wrong with being a perfectionist and wanting to grow/ excel/ become better/ achieve more?”

Nothing! There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to grow. 

However, that’s not the same as being a perfectionist!

And the harsh truth is, whether you believe it or not, being a perfectionist doesn’t necessarily mean you are growing. 

Actually, the opposite is more likely true: many perfectionists sabotage their growth, are slow or late in their progress, or often make wrong decisions and waste time lingering and thinking rather than evaluating and moving on. 

Perfectionism says: “Why do you waste all this time resting? This is not productive! Work is productive.”

Perfectionism says: "You are not trying enough.”
 
Perfectionism says: "Look at the past - so many mistakes. Look at the future - you're gonna fail.”
 
Perfectionism says: "Your worth is your work and your achievements.”
 
Perfectionism intimidates. It depletes your sense of worth, and compares you to others constantly. It tells you that you will NEVER be able to change. 

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join this TRANSFORMATIONAL ONLINE COURSE and understand
​how to break free from the toxic emotional perfectionism
and live a healthier and more satisfying life!

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When you master this course, you will be able to:

✔ see fear as a necessary part of human experience
✔ understand the deeper meaning of your fears 
✔ cope with your fears instead of letting them rule you
✔ live a life in which you follow your dreams and passions

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About Vassia Sarantopoulou, your Trainer

Hi, I'm Vassia. 
I am the Head Psychologist and the proud Founder and Owner of AntiLoneliness, a company offering mental health services in The Netherlands and also Worldwide. 
I am also a Trainer, a Perfectionism Expert and a Mental Health Ambassador. ​

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✔ I am trained in (Group) Schema Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy, among other approaches (CBT, ACT, CFT, Mindfulness). 
✔ I am a member of NIP (Dutch Institute for Psychologists). 
✔ I am a member of ISST (International Society of Schema Therapy) and ICEEFT (International Center of Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy) 
✔ I am collaborating with Universities and Organisations offering workshops and trainings, mainly on Perfectionism, Work Relationships, Burnout and Stress Management. 
✔ Through AntiLoneliness and my team of psychologists, I offer individual, couples or group sessions to those who struggle with anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, burnout, loneliness, relationship issues, transition/change, expat life. 

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Are you ready to take the first step to an emotionally healthy life?

 Jump into this self-paced course and let yourself breathe again, guilt-free!

If you have any questions, don't hesitate to contact me at info@antiloneliness.com or in my instagram business profile page. ​

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