It is so frustrating to be in a relationship and yet to feel so lonely in it. So disconnected. So misunderstood.
I totally get it.
All these fights, the constant blame game, or the distance, the silence…
And if you are like my other clients, you oftentimes feel hopeless because you have tried everything.
And still nothing changes.
Or I can imagine you feel:
-as if you and your partner are like roommates
-exhausted from trying too much for too long
-stuck in a relationship where you can neither stay nor leave
I guess you are already wondering
how long you can keep this up before you leave for real, right?
All these fights, the constant blame game, or the distance, the silence…
And if you are like my other clients, you oftentimes feel hopeless because you have tried everything.
And still nothing changes.
Or I can imagine you feel:
-as if you and your partner are like roommates
-exhausted from trying too much for too long
-stuck in a relationship where you can neither stay nor leave
I guess you are already wondering
how long you can keep this up before you leave for real, right?
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And you go back,
and you fight, and you point out what needs to change, and you cry, and you try to prove yourself right and your partner wrong, and you have these loooong conversations, and one wants to talk about feelings and the other wants to stop this fight once and for all, and one is leaving the room, and the other one is sucked back into loneliness and despair... And the next day, you try again. In the same way... I mean, has it worked so far? |
Most people think that in order to get connection, understanding and respect in their relationship, they either have to have it from the very beginning of the relationship or they have to work really hard for it.
However the truth is that the REAL REASON for this disconnection and constant conflict, is that:
we DON’T KNOW how to build connection,
we DON’T KNOW what is happening with our partner when we fight and
we DON’T KNOW the words and steps to stop the vicious cycle of blame and disconnection.
However the truth is that the REAL REASON for this disconnection and constant conflict, is that:
we DON’T KNOW how to build connection,
we DON’T KNOW what is happening with our partner when we fight and
we DON’T KNOW the words and steps to stop the vicious cycle of blame and disconnection.
We DON'T KNOW about our attachment styles and how these can break or make a relationship.
And if we don’t learn about our relationship and our attachment styles, we are doomed to re-live this vicious cycle again and again and again, with ANY partner in ANY relationship we end up with.
You can do it. Here's the proof:
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Laurie "We had become roommates. Only talking about the practical tasks of our common life, and that's all. I wanted real connection and I thought that it was too late to create that. Thank you for proving me wrong! Thank you for teaching me a new language! The attachment theory saved me." |
Bas "Thank you for taking loneliness out of my life. I had spent so much time trying to guess what my partner needed, and yet feeling like an outsider in his life. I thought that it would take so much work for me to communicate with him, but eventually it was much easier, much clearer than I thought. Can't thank you enough!" |
Let me show you what we will discuss and learn once you join our workshop
👉The truth about attachment style and how it is getting on the way of healthy relationships
-learn your attachment style
-learn how to respond to the attachment style of your partner
👉How we feed the vicious cycle of disconnection and conflict in our relationship
-learn the “infinity” loop of triggers
-how one’s fears and behaviours activate the others without knowing it
👉How to break the cycle and build safe conversations and strong connection
-how to talk to each other when their attachment style is active
-how to explain to your partner your needs and how you want to be treated
Now you can step into the trusting and caring love relationship the universe has in store for you.
On the other hand, you might be thinking...
...how is it possible to change a whole relationship and an unhealthy dynamic within two hours?
You are right, it’s not possible in two hours. I am not a magician.
I will give you the tools, but you need to do the work. But I will make sure that I will make this work as easy and comfortable as possible for you.
One thing is certain though: that if you don’t do anything about it, nothing will change. You will be still stuck there in this negative relationship cycle watching it getting worse day by day.
You can for sure learn all these things from books, couples therapy, youtube videos.
But if you want to do something NOW, today and not ONE DAY,
if you want to protect yourself and your relationship from more pain and hurt,
that’s your place to be.
Let me guide you today and let’s create a strong starting point for a relationship that’s worth it: YOURS.
You are right, it’s not possible in two hours. I am not a magician.
I will give you the tools, but you need to do the work. But I will make sure that I will make this work as easy and comfortable as possible for you.
One thing is certain though: that if you don’t do anything about it, nothing will change. You will be still stuck there in this negative relationship cycle watching it getting worse day by day.
You can for sure learn all these things from books, couples therapy, youtube videos.
But if you want to do something NOW, today and not ONE DAY,
if you want to protect yourself and your relationship from more pain and hurt,
that’s your place to be.
Let me guide you today and let’s create a strong starting point for a relationship that’s worth it: YOURS.
Are you ready to see the change you have always longed for in your relationship?
BONUS #1
The ULTIMATE guide (or else, a cheat sheet) to Attachment Theory with:
*all the details about the 4 attachment styles
*words and phrases that you will use in order to de-escalate the tension or to engage after withdrawal
*ways to reach out to your partner depending on your attachment style and theirs.
BONUS #2
VIP access to the Thriving Relationships Group that will soon open - only for a specific amount of people
The ULTIMATE guide (or else, a cheat sheet) to Attachment Theory with:
*all the details about the 4 attachment styles
*words and phrases that you will use in order to de-escalate the tension or to engage after withdrawal
*ways to reach out to your partner depending on your attachment style and theirs.
BONUS #2
VIP access to the Thriving Relationships Group that will soon open - only for a specific amount of people
You can join the workshop or wait for the problem to get resolved by itself (but why hasn’t this happened so far?)
It's up to you now.
You are opening the doors to more connection, more love, more respect, more understanding: isn’t this what you have always wanted?
Or
You are giving up on a relationship that meant the world to you and you are allowing distance and disconnection to grow day after day.
Which side are you on?
Or
You are giving up on a relationship that meant the world to you and you are allowing distance and disconnection to grow day after day.
Which side are you on?
FAQ
Can I watch it together with my partner? Do we have to buy two tickets?
My goal is to help you protect your relationship and find connection again and not to deplete your family budget. I am more than happy with the fact that you BOTH want to participate, so get your ONE ticket and join me.
What if my partner doesn’t want to follow the tips?
It takes two to tango, they say. If your partner doesn't want, they don't want. Period. However, it is VERY possible that your partner doesn't want to follow the workshop or the tips, not because they don't love you, but for all the other reasons we mentioned above: it may seem to them that it's too much work, they may not feel safe in this relationship to make this change, they don't know how to do it. So, what if you join us and learn how to explain it to them in a way that they WILL WANT to try in the end?
Will you send us the handouts?
After the workshop you will receive by email:
*the recording of the workshop
*the detailed guide with the Attachment Styles, as well as how to use the RIGHT WORDS for each of the 4 attachment styles and create more safety and connecion with your partner.
I have felt lonely, empty and disconnected from my partner for a long time and I have a feeling that it’s too late. Will this workshop be good for me?
Is it ever too late for love? Is it ever too late for connection? Giving up on love, means giving up on you. And I wouldn't want that for you. Any effort we do in order to learn about relationships is always worth it. Because you deserve it. There is always a space for you in our community!
We are already seeing a couples therapist. Will it still be useful for us to participate?
Seeing a therapist or a couples therapist AND participating in a workshop packed with insights and tools about relationships doesn't mean that one cancels the other. Contrariwise, one adds to the other. You are speeding up your relationship growth, to be honest. Good job!
I feel that for me this is not about skills. I have been attracting wrong partners all my life. It’s the story of my life. What would this workshop offer me?
There is no such thing as "the story of my life" or "this is my fate, my destiny, and I cannot change it". You are the master of your life, you are here giving yourself a new chance, you are changing the narrative and you are opening up for a different, healthier, happier kind of love. You deserve it so much.
How much work will I need to do after the workshop in order to see my relationship change?
As I usually say, love is a decision. Every day you wake up in the morning and you consciously decide to work on your relationship in order to preserve and protect the loving feeling YOU feel about your partner. Either you join the workshop or not, if you want to protect this relationship, you need to work. The good news is that the more you work in the beginning, the more automatically some habits and patterns and behaviors will come to you, so then you don't need to think a lot. In other words, work smart, not hard.
Can I watch it together with my partner? Do we have to buy two tickets?
My goal is to help you protect your relationship and find connection again and not to deplete your family budget. I am more than happy with the fact that you BOTH want to participate, so get your ONE ticket and join me.
What if my partner doesn’t want to follow the tips?
It takes two to tango, they say. If your partner doesn't want, they don't want. Period. However, it is VERY possible that your partner doesn't want to follow the workshop or the tips, not because they don't love you, but for all the other reasons we mentioned above: it may seem to them that it's too much work, they may not feel safe in this relationship to make this change, they don't know how to do it. So, what if you join us and learn how to explain it to them in a way that they WILL WANT to try in the end?
Will you send us the handouts?
After the workshop you will receive by email:
*the recording of the workshop
*the detailed guide with the Attachment Styles, as well as how to use the RIGHT WORDS for each of the 4 attachment styles and create more safety and connecion with your partner.
I have felt lonely, empty and disconnected from my partner for a long time and I have a feeling that it’s too late. Will this workshop be good for me?
Is it ever too late for love? Is it ever too late for connection? Giving up on love, means giving up on you. And I wouldn't want that for you. Any effort we do in order to learn about relationships is always worth it. Because you deserve it. There is always a space for you in our community!
We are already seeing a couples therapist. Will it still be useful for us to participate?
Seeing a therapist or a couples therapist AND participating in a workshop packed with insights and tools about relationships doesn't mean that one cancels the other. Contrariwise, one adds to the other. You are speeding up your relationship growth, to be honest. Good job!
I feel that for me this is not about skills. I have been attracting wrong partners all my life. It’s the story of my life. What would this workshop offer me?
There is no such thing as "the story of my life" or "this is my fate, my destiny, and I cannot change it". You are the master of your life, you are here giving yourself a new chance, you are changing the narrative and you are opening up for a different, healthier, happier kind of love. You deserve it so much.
How much work will I need to do after the workshop in order to see my relationship change?
As I usually say, love is a decision. Every day you wake up in the morning and you consciously decide to work on your relationship in order to preserve and protect the loving feeling YOU feel about your partner. Either you join the workshop or not, if you want to protect this relationship, you need to work. The good news is that the more you work in the beginning, the more automatically some habits and patterns and behaviors will come to you, so then you don't need to think a lot. In other words, work smart, not hard.
About Vassia Sarantopoulou, your trainer
Hi, I'm Vassia.
I am the Head Psychologist, Director, Founder and Owner of AntiLoneliness, a company offering mental health services in The Netherlands and also worldwide.
I am also a Trainer and Speaker.
I am specialised in relationships counseling and I love supporting people in finding real, deep, authentic connection with others.
Relationships are hard, not because they are tricky, but mainly because we get into them knowing almost nothing about how to protect them and nurture them.
At the end of the day, it's about learning the skills and putting them into practice.
I am the Head Psychologist, Director, Founder and Owner of AntiLoneliness, a company offering mental health services in The Netherlands and also worldwide.
I am also a Trainer and Speaker.
I am specialised in relationships counseling and I love supporting people in finding real, deep, authentic connection with others.
Relationships are hard, not because they are tricky, but mainly because we get into them knowing almost nothing about how to protect them and nurture them.
At the end of the day, it's about learning the skills and putting them into practice.
A few things about my 15+ years experience in the field of Psychology:
✔ I am trained in (Group) Schema Therapy and Emotionally Focused Therapy, among other approaches (CBT, ACT, CFT, Transactional Analysis, Mindfulness).
✔ I am a member of NIP (Dutch Institute for Psychologists).
✔ I am a member of ISST (International Society of Schema Therapy) and ICEEFT (International Center of Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy)
✔ I am collaborating with Universities and Organisations offering workshops and trainings, mainly on Perfectionism, Work Relationships, Anxiety, Burnout and Stress Management.
✔ Through AntiLoneliness and my team of psychologists, I offer individual, couples or groups sessions to those who struggle with anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, burnout, loneliness, relationship issues, transition/change, expat life.
✔ I have created AntiLoneliness Academy, in order to help more people have access to Psychoeducational courses for more Self-Awareness and Self-Growth
✔ I am a member of NIP (Dutch Institute for Psychologists).
✔ I am a member of ISST (International Society of Schema Therapy) and ICEEFT (International Center of Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy)
✔ I am collaborating with Universities and Organisations offering workshops and trainings, mainly on Perfectionism, Work Relationships, Anxiety, Burnout and Stress Management.
✔ Through AntiLoneliness and my team of psychologists, I offer individual, couples or groups sessions to those who struggle with anxiety, depression, trauma, grief, burnout, loneliness, relationship issues, transition/change, expat life.
✔ I have created AntiLoneliness Academy, in order to help more people have access to Psychoeducational courses for more Self-Awareness and Self-Growth
Remember: Love is a Decision.
