The 5 Core Emotional Needs of Every Relationship
Relationships can be challenging, and even the strongest and healthiest relationships can hit bumps in the road. But what if there was a framework to understand the core emotional needs that underpin all relationships? Understanding these needs can help us build strong and fulfilling relationships, while neglecting them can lead to dissatisfaction and even the breakdown of a relationship.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is one such framework that emphasizes the importance of meeting five core emotional needs in relationships: having a secure attachment, having fun, having boundaries, having autonomy, and having open communication. In this blog post, we will explore each of these emotional needs in more detail and how they can impact our relationships.
Why is it so hard to leave a toxic relationship?
It is often the case that after we get out of a relationship, we look back and we see all the things we couldn’t see when we were in the relationship: the pain, the rejection, the lack of respect and boundaries. But if it’s so painful, why isn’t it easier for us to see clearly what is best for us and leave a toxic relationship sooner rather than later?
Are you a pursuer or a withdrawer?
Are you a pursuer or a withdrawer in your relationship?
When fighting with your partner, do you prefer to:
A - Ask for explanations, blame, push, overanalyse, criticise or
B - Retreat, shut down, walk away, avoid or find distraction?
If A, you are probably a pursuer. And I say “probably” because there is another type of pursuer, I will explain later.
If B, then you are probably a withdrawer.
Why We Push The People We Love Away & How To Stop It
The Strange Case of Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde
Are you familiar with the story of Dr. Jekyll and Mr Hyde? It’s based on the novella of Robert Louis Stevenson and the story is about a man who he is a respectful and kind doctor during the day, when the night falls he turns into a heartless evil, killing innocent people. What Stevenson is trying to describe here is the duality of human nature; in other words how the shifting between “good” and “bad” is part of our inner struggles and how hard it is to incorporate both in order to come in peace and in acceptance of the inevitable existence of both these elements in our lives.
YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHERS.