To clarify this:
Perfectionism is not being perfect or delivering perfect results.
Perfectionism is the stress that we are never enough, that we don't deserve reward or even a break, until we try even more. And more. And more.
It's the feeling that we are never good enough.
How did it all start?
Perfectionism is our response to uncertainty around us.
It's our attempt to control our environment and/or our future. Therefore, one possible origin of this behavior was in our childhood: overly critical parents, or unsafe environment, or big change(s) in the family. One way or another, we felt that by controlling small details and organising our life to perfection, would make us feel more safe and protected.
Another reason to become a perfectionism is to just copy it. Again, someone in the family taught us the importance of achievements and adjusting to the external rules and norms, and this is how we ended up seeing perfectionism as our anchor.
Culture, thinking patterns, fears, can be some more possible reasons why we thought that perfectionism is a good way to cope with challenges.
Why perfectionism is not useful anymore.
Because it makes us lose focus and confuse the important with the unimportant.
Because it makes our Inner Critic's voice so loud that we always judge ourselves.
Because it makes us judge others, as well, and the toll we pay in our relationships is heavy. We are left alone.
Because it makes us feel shame for who we are and for who we aren't.
Because it's scientifically proven that it's highly related with Anxiety and Depression.
Because it keeps us stuck in our comfort zone for too long, even though we would like to move forward, but we don't dare.
We don't need Perfectionism anymore.
We need more of our imperfections.
We need to let go of control when it's not necessary.
We need more calmness and peace with what we are and with who we choose to be.
We are enough already and we are not negotiating our value, because that's painful and exhausting.
"Good enough" is the new "perfect".
Take action now.
TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE.