In the past, each December I found myself engaged (sometimes in a frenetic way), determining what my New Year's Resolutions would be. The first thing I would do is go back to the last year's list and tick all those that have been achieved. Most of the times the result was somewhere between "ok" and "satisfying" and if there are a few unsuccessful resolutions, I just convinced myself that those were not important enough to make it to the final round. My next step step was to figure out what I wanted for the following year. The last two years though, my New Year Resolution list is somewhat different. For some strange reason, I keep asking myself "If you already know where you're heading, why do you need a list"?
Why Do We Set New Year's Resolutions?
It makes sense why we need goals and resolutions.
Because when we have goals:
Is Setting Goals Enough?
I understand that we need goals for all these reasons. But is this a good reason in order to keep us building lists with goals and resolutions, and torturing ourselves with unreachable targets and extremely high expectations?
Take a look at your New Year's Resolutions last year: Were all the points in the list in line with your priorities? Did you WANT to achieve them or did you feel you HAD TO?
After the end of one of my courses on Procrastination, I noticed a significant change in the participants' mindset. They had goals before the course, and continued having them after the course. However, the difference afterwards was in how they saw their goals afterwards: and that was with Value and Focus.
Let's use some examples to make it more specific:
We need goals. But not some random goals.
What we need is to know:
1. what we consider important in life (values)
2. what our next priority is (focus)
Back to our examples:
How To Set New Year's Resolutions The Right Way
In a nutshell.
Say NO to:
Our New NYE Resolutions
What if this year we change the habit? Instead of compiling a list of "must-do's" and "should-do's", let's ask ourselves:
Sounds like a good plan for me. ;-)
Happy holidays to all!
TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE.