Each December I find myself engaged (sometimes in a frenetic way), determining what my New Year's Resolutions will be.
The first thing I do is go back to the last year's list and tick all those that have been achieved. Most of the times the result is somewhere between "ok" and "satisfying" and if there are a few non-kept resolutions, I just convince myself that those were the "substitute" ones, the ones that would just bring some extra flavour to the year's achievement.
Second step is to figure out what I want for the following year. This December, however, making my New Year Resolution list is somewhat different. For some strange reason, I keep asking myself "If you already know where you're heading, why do you need a list"?
WHY we need goals and resolutions.
Because when we have goals:
Are goals enough?
I understand that we need goals for all these reasons. But is this a good reason in order to keep us building lists with goals and resolutions, and torturing ourselves with unreachable targets and extremely high expectations?
Take a look at your New Year's Resolutions last year: Were all the points in the list there in line with your priorities? Did you WANT to achieve them or did you feel you HAD TO?
After the Procrastination course was over, I noticed a significant change in the participants' mindset. They had goals before the course, and continued having them after the course. However, the difference afterwards was in how they saw their goals afterwards: and that was with Value and Focus.
Let's use some examples to make it more specific:
We need goals. But not some random goals.
What we need is to know:
1. what we consider important in life (values)
2. what our next priority is (focus)
Back to our examples:
In a nutshell.
Say NO to:
What if this year we change the habit? Instead of compiling a list of "must-do's" and "should-do's", let's ask ourselves:
Sounds like a good plan for me. ;-)
Happy holidays to all!
TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE.