Lonely Men: Do Men Feel Lonelier than Women? In general, men and women experience and handle emotions differently- both in how emotions are experienced and how they are expressed. According to a study, men have higher emotional experience, while women have more emotional expressivity. However this varies depending on the type of emotion. One such emotion experienced by both genders is loneliness. But do both men and women experience loneliness similarly? Is one gender more likely to experience loneliness over the other? Let's find out. What is Loneliness? Loneliness vs Being AloneLoneliness is a deep emotional disconnection, an emotional “desert”; an emotion you experience when you feel as though you are not getting your needs met from your relationships and social contacts. There is a craving for social contact but you do not fulfil this need. There is a general misconception, however, between being alone and feeling lonely. Feeling lonely is like being surrounded by other people but still feeling disconnected from them. Being alone, however, is a physical state of being by yourself without the negative feelings attached to it. You may even feel calm and at peace with yourself. Common Causes of LonelinessVarious factors can contribute to feelings of loneliness. Some examples are isolation, moving, divorce and even loss of a loved one. Most often, loneliness is linked to feelings of disconnection from others. We feel as though those we are surrounded by do not understand us. Alternatively, loneliness is associated with feelings of disconnection from ourselves. We experience this sort of loneliness when we spend a lot of our time focusing on other people’s needs. We no longer recognise who we are and what gives us purpose. Male Loneliness: Differences Between Men and WomenAccording to research, women express feeling more lonely than men. However, one study showed that women might not feel lonelier than men, but they may be more comfortable admitting they feel lonely. This could be explained by the notion of toxic masculinity that exists in several cultures. Many generations have been raised with the belief that “Boys don’t cry'', which means that males don’t complain or express any negative emotions, but they just bottle them up. The expression of emotions is considered a “feminine” trait. It makes great sense therefore that women are more likely and comfortable to express feelings of loneliness because men have higher consequences of not being viewed as “masculine enough”. Therefore, men are more reluctant to admit to feeling lonely. 5 Signs of Loneliness in MenAs most things, the signs of loneliness differ based on the persona and the situation. However, generally, men express loneliness differently to women. 1. Staying silentAs a result of toxic masculinity, the negative stigma of admitting to feel lonely can cause men to remain silent and keep the feelings of loneliness tucked away inside. 2. EmptinessNot feeling connected to the people around them and not enjoying activities that once used to be enjoyable can leave one feeling empty and lonely. 3. IsolatingIsolating from friends and family can be an indication that a man is feeling lonely and disconnected from people around him. 4. Engaging in risky behaviourTo fill the void of being without others, some men may find comfort in abusing alcohol or other substances. For some, engaging in risky sexual activities is a way of coping and an attempt to find a connection with another. Less common in men, but also possible is overeating. 5. Mood and behaviour changesRaging from feeling fatigued to bored; or from agitated and annoyed to sad, men can find themselves trapped in mood and behaviour changes. This can result in others close to them distancing themselves, further adding to the feelings of loneliness they experience. Why Do Men Feel More Lonely?On the general scale, women have reported having higher levels of loneliness than men. Except for one category: Single men are the lonelier group compared to single women. Several reasons might explain these findings:
How to Overcome Loneliness: Tips for MenIf you are a man and are feeling lonely, there is nothing to be ashamed about. As discussed, many men feel lonely and the culprit oftentimes is the way society raises young boys. There are many things you can do in order to feel less lonely. Here we share some of the best tips to help you decrease your feelings of loneliness: 1. Focus on developing quality relationshipsLook for people who share similar values and interests to you. If your aim is only to find a partner, it might be possible that you will miss some good opportunity of connecting with others without judging them for whether they are good enough to be your partner or not. Leave the checklist at home and be present in every interaction that you find meaningful and valuable. 2. Strengthen your current relationshipsWhile making new connections is important and healthy, it doesn’t mean you need to shut out those already in your life. Building on to the relationships you already have is a great way to fight against loneliness and develop more meaningful connections. 3. Join a communityVolunteer organisations and support groups for like-minded others can be especially helpful for men looking to develop closer relationships and to reduce feelings of loneliness. 4. Find meaning and purpose in lifeFind activities or interests that are important to you. If you struggle to do that, find your top five values in life and reflect on whether you are doing something to meet them. 5. Do things you enjoyBeing alone doesn’t mean you will be lonely. So, enjoy spending some time with yourself by doing things you enjoy! And remember: loving yourself is setting the way of how you want to be treated by others. Final messageExperiencing loneliness is tough. Not being able to talk about loneliness- or even admit it to oneself- is even more difficult. The pressure on men to protect their masculinity and act “strong” can make loneliness feel worse. Loneliness is not an uncommon emotion to men. While it is underreported, it doesn’t mean that it isn’t there. It takes a lot of confidence and strength to overcome the barrier of “boys don’t cry”. You are not alone. What's next?
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